As I’ve been raising my own masculinity levels and working on my leadership skills, I’ve been reflecting on the worst of my Beta Days. A lot. It’s led to some sporadic posting here on the site, because its hard to talk about these issues. Let alone when you’re working on figuring them out for yourself and how to apply them to your own personal life.
The last week the parts of my life I’ve mulled over have been directed by one of my upcoming projects – a satirical play that merges examining Japanese Anime/hentai with American Spectacle. Yeah, its a bit crazy, but its interesting as hell. I just pointed the director in the direction of the grass eaters movement and am curious what she’ll think about it.
I think the Japanese culture and history has a wealth of knowledge about exactly what NOT to do – that current anime is an excellent growth out of these examples, and that it ties a lot in to what men and leaders have to move away from in our society – fighting the cultural expectations to do otherwise.
Anime – the servant and the Chameleon
There was one point in my young adult life (~10 years ago) that I was really big on that anime shit. I won’t get into details – lets just say that the first two years of college I somehow landed in the middle of a bunch of crazy and hot women that were all into it. Private school in Denver, CO – who’d have thought?
Anyways, I quickly found that every. single. male. protagonist…. was what I can only describe now as a little bitch. They had loads of questions, no answers, codes of morality that involved never killing anyone (no matter how evil), and generally being a whiny little entitled baby that had father issues he was never able to get over.
It was like going to an ice cream shop and being presented with only different variations of the flavor vanilla. You can make that flavor a million different ways, each with it’s own subtlety, but it always just gonna be freaking vanilla. The problem comes about when the one going to the shop doesn’t know there are other flavors out there he simply hasn’t seen.
The two main flavors of these vanilla heros were the male protagonists that had a code of honor that enslaved them to society. Pretty straight forward – we see it all the time here in the US too. The one we don’t see as often here in the US, though it’s rising, is the chameleon protagonist. The one who’s goal is literally to get in touch with his ‘emotional core’ to the point where he can change himself and his goals to fit the situation. He literally revamps his goals, agenda, purpose, strengths, weaknesses – everything – to fit the needs of others.
One of the major anime series, Neon Genesis Evangelion, goes as far to say that an individual does (and should) have different identities with every single person they encounter. That one should accept and embrace that fact, rather than try to have a one true self that others can get to learn.
Not only is a complete change of self to any situation impossible, it’s incredibly unhealthy to lionize, let alone attempt. The idea ignores the core of an individual man, the need to assert and prove strength. To find, follow, and accomplish individual goals from which we will not stray.
From these ideals – subservience in varying forms to the greater social good – it’s no surprise the grass eater movement came about that said screw it to all women. However, its a shame they continued to be subservient to society by merely rolling over, exposing their bellies, and giving up. From that position they seem to love asking questions, “What does it mean to live? What’s my purpose? How does morality work?” but seem surprised they’re unable to find unsatisfying answers while they lay on their backs in the dirt, being ground to dust.
A Side of Alpha
Rollo’s newest post Up The Alpha made me realize American society is following the Japanese grass eaters. Women are encouraging that we ask questions of what it means to be a man. They want us confused and lost in the woods. They engineered, though likely through their own blunders more than any concentrated scheme or conspiracy, a complete lack of masculinity in today’s culture and a desire for the average man to discover what that is.
Sadly, women know that men don’t know how to be men. They’ve seen this, because they’ve felt their sex drives for men drop for the average man, but increase significantly to the masculine male due to the contrast with the average male. And this is where the trouble comes in.
Women think they have the answer.
Yes – that’s the danger. They think they have it and they don’t. What’s more, they’re convinced they have it and are completely indignant when we refuse to take their answer – to have a side of Alpha to our beta.
Don’t believe how indignant they get? Look at Hooking up smart. All meaningful talk of reality has been banned there because feelings might be hurt and it goes against the goals of Susan – to make men attractive to women. Not to make men. Not to make men good at being men. Simply to make them attractive to women.
To have us be that chameleon.
To have a code that puts us in subservience to their needs.
Thank every tiny God that American Feminists are dumb as bricks, unable to see social implications, or learn from history (mostly because they ignore it due to inconvenient truths). They’d immediately look to Japan and see that confused American men are primed and ready to be struck, never to recover. That if they acted now, we’d always be asking questions and be looking to them for answers. They would have pushed us into the dirt with us looking to them for answers.
Then, as Rollo says, those ‘flashes of Alpha’ may get some brief tingles going, but likely they’ll just seem childish, angry, and coming from a place of dependence. Because they are. Then those flashes, or sides, of Alpha will be negatively labeled and used to control the man to do what the woman wants. You see this now as men wake up and try to assert themselves. You see it supported by the laws that an emotionally abused husband that breaks, has a flash of Alpha, is sent to jail for years, has his house seized, his children, and his assets.
There is no side of alpha. No flash. It is either have or have not – with the have nots being forced to endure a harsh learning curve to become a have.
I doubt that any of the women who practice this are consciously trying to push men down. Or rather, that the few that do know are vastly outweighed by a majority of women that simply don’t have the knowledge, vision, or understanding of the masculine nature to realize the small pushes they’re making would drive us closer to the Grass Eaters. Don’t forgive them, yet they know not what they do.
Luckily, their chance is passing. The manosphere continues to grow, continues to gain red pill converts, continues to have more and more of the lessons we explore, learn, and codify in the mainstream mediea. I have faith we’ll endure.
We’ve been finding what it means to be a man again. We’ll re-learn how to teach it to the coming generations while we’re at it.
The Multi-faceted man
When I read Hunter’s post on Duality, I was originally concerned that he was going to follow that formula – the change of self to meet the needs of the situation or others being a good thing. I was very pleased that it didn’t go there, but explored how this can be a fact of reality at times. That it should be avoided when ever possible. That it causes unhappiness as it leads you to be untrue to yourself, though being congruent doesn’t necessarily cause happiness either.
Kind of a ‘just don’t fuck it up’ thing.
My experience is that the multifaceted man comes from two things. One is the individual growth of a man. Each man has different traits he works on, stones he’s born with and develops into tools or walls of boundaries. The Stones of Masculinity. By necessity, as these stones that make up the nature of a man are worked with, developed, sorted into their place, and resorted…. The man will look multifaceted because he IS multifaceted. The difference is that he is a work in progress. The man knows he’s not done with the building of himself yet, and continually improves.
The second aspect that can lead to a man looking multifaceted is the strength of his frame and the place from which other individuals view him. A man may not be multifaceted, but simply has not or cannot impose his frame upon the viewer for any variety of reasons. Only being passingly acquainted, unable to assert authority due to work environment, etc. The other can be found in the viewer themselves. Broken people have broken views. No amount of frame control will change that unless you undertake putting the person back together again. A long, tedious process that rarely works because broken people simply like to stay broken. Especially broken women or emasculated males.
Thus, the multifaceted man is a reality because most men are still improving themselves.
The Alpha’s lack of facets
The Alpha has a solid core of one piece and a frame to put it on anyone other than the broken little creatures. How he treats those is up to the Alpha’s individual tastes.
An alpha male, a leader, a man good at being a man, is of one core form. He serves one core purpose – whatever the hell he chooses. This can lead to a caddish lifestyle. A gang leader. A community leader. A religious leader. A political leader. Each of those will come with different moral codes and different methods of action to impose their visions upon the world. This is because those different visions will require different environments created by the Man in order to best achieve his vision.
This is not to say that different people may delude themselves to see a multifaceted or broken man. Nor that these men can’t adapt to environments. They actually have to constantly evaluate and respond to situations in order to reassert their will. The difference is that instead of changing themselves, they merely show an aspect of their core that may have gone unnoticed in it’s subtlety previously, utilizing the tools they’ve developed to solve the problem while staying true to themselves. There is no change – just a glimpse into the solid core of a man. A part that the man didn’t particularly care or need to show off nor demonstrate before. To those unaccustomed and unable to understand such men, it may indeed look as if they have a ‘different aspect’ to a personality.
Rather, it is the man having a depth of personality that viewers’ shallow eyes couldn’t penetrate.
As Rollo says – Alpha is as Alpha does.