The longer I’ve had to digest this Red Pill, the more I notice barriers that others place in one’s life. It’s been interesting to consciously acknowledge those barriers and begin studying how different people handle them.
The more I see, the more patterns emerge. The more patterns emerge, the more I believe that how one handles barriers is one of the major indicators of where one stands in the social hierarchy.
Before I dig into this, I want to mention that I’m talking about external barriers. Barriers of any form place by an outside force; be it individuals, social structures, laws, government, etc.
Internal, self placed barriers are something completely different all together. And though I have started exploring how to break those down myself and wrote about it the other day on Finding Your Wounds, that is not what this post covers. If you want to continue that discussion I’d be happy to do so in any comments, or Yohami has some really brilliant posts on it at his site. This first post is great (and yes, watch the video he links), and in this second one he takes a comment I made and masterfully expresses the heart of what I was attempting to say.
Though, now that I think on it…. Maybe one handles external barriers the same that they’ve been equipped to handle their internal ones? Hmmm…. Lets explore this thought….
I have no idea where this post is going, I’m excited.
Now….
Into the rabbit hole
Barriers Females Deal With
This is an easy answer – the modern woman doesn’t deal with barriers.
[edit: A great point was made by Yohami. There's an exception to this, that being for barriers other women place upon her. For examples look to feminism and female group dynamics.]
Don’t believe me? Look at how easily they’ve obtained rights in this country and the privileges men have sweated and bled for. And all they had to do was have the majority of them ask for those privileges. Girl Says What says this much, MUCH better than I do in this video here. (Expect to see this brilliant woman make the teacher list on the side soon, I just have a hard time finding half an hour to sit down and digest these videos she makes). Men will bend over backwards, change physical requirements for things like military service, work environments, educational systems, everything, for women.
[Additional edit]
This is a new development though. Before current no-fault divorce laws and child support, women faced barriers placed by men in the form of barriers between a woman and a man’s commitment of resources. Those being attention, money, time, and emotional support. Between social media, the rise of femcentric thinking, and the welfare state to support the poor decisions of women, they now face no barriers on these items. Now, the only barrier they’ll ever face is when the poor wimmenz has the script flipped on them by a man of value, uprooting her primacy in the sexual market place through seduction.
[end edit]
As such, the main external barrier women will ever face is the biological limitations placed upon them by their own bodies.
Why this is relevent
Because women face no real barriers, they don’t have any basis for understanding barriers men deal with. They don’t understand how a male will deal with barriers, they just observe the reaction from males and do their best to relate. IE – project.
This is especially enlightening when one considers that their is a great deal of barriers men deal with are either placed directly by women or place by men for the benefit of women.
As such, these barriers often become huge status symbols for how you approach and deal with them. There are a few options every man can do when encountering a barrier.
“Ugg SMASH!”
Simply put, smash the barrier into little bitty pieces.
If not for social programming, I think this would be the natural reaction most men would have. We see something in the way, and the most direct path appears to be the best path. Simple, easy.
Usually this extreme method of dealing with a barrier gets equally extreme reactions from observers. Awe, respect, contempt, fear, fight/flight, and sexual attraction responses can be among them. Sometimes multiple of those at once.
But there’s no guarantee of which it will be.
Such an overt display of power is sharp in its contrast with the modern male’s behavior. These days, the modern male will resort to one of the other methods. Women and a society of white knights/manginas know this. As such, if your barreling through a barrier is an action outside of your persona, one either based in fear/anger/frustration or one that they don’t expect from your bearing, it will likely elicit negative reactions of fear, contempt, and fight/flight from all parties. They may not consciously sense your anger, but trust me, they’ll react to it.
In regards to how this might reflect how you’ve handled your internal barriers…. I suspect it shows that you really, honestly don’t know how the hell to handle your own emotions. Probably you’ve smashed it all down into a teeny, tiny little ball of seething rage that you then locked in a safe and threw in the bottom of a sea. Then you and those around you are surprised as shit when this behemoth rises from still lake of your exterior emotions and eats a few people’s faces. Like zombies, in Florida.
In contrast to this, if you barrel through a barrier like it wasn’t there, with a smile on your face, they may have some echos of those negative reactions. However, they’ll likely be shadowed by positive reactions of awe, respect, and sexual attraction. A good example of these can be found in the tenets of direct game.
“We require…. A SHRUBBERY!”
If you haven’t seen this Monty Python scene, go watch it now.
It summarizes, in a hilarious way, the idea of a toll to get past barriers. You’ll find barriers with a toll that requires a payment completely absurd, over the top, or unrelated to the goal you want to achieve beyond. Then, when you go, find the toll, and pay it…. Why, you’ll find they’ve changed the price! Or that they really don’t have what you were told beyond the barrier at all.
This is the life of a Beta Orbiter.
This isn’t really regulated to women and sex either. Those poor bastards have to deal with the same kind of treatment in soul sucking jobs, family, life. This is really the daily routine of a co-dependent. You want to help someone, feel needed, feel important. So you give them what they say they need. They then ask for more. Meanwhile someone else gets that promotion, is put on the will, and passes you up in line to get on the roller coaster. Because they don’t care to listen to what ‘is right’ and realize that the majority of demands placed on them are done so without any reward of following, punishment of breaking ‘the rules,’ and rewards them for ignoring the glare of the beta’s and their voice of squeaky protests.
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes society works BECAUSE of these kinds of absurd rules. But take that red pill, open your eyes, and at least acknowledge that the rules are, indeed, absurd.
Then act according to your own judgment.
“Just walk away man, just walk away”
Title says it all. Ignore the barrier, ignore what’s beyond it, because you looked and saw that whatever was there is of no real value to you.
Probably an action reserved for people that have their shit together. They know their emotional state, their goals, their desires, and what they’re willing to pay resources to acquire something. They have no desire to break something they see simply for the sake of breaking it, such as someone with anger issues might. Nor do they feel the need to give up valuable resources for something they don’t need or whine about not having what is beyond it, like someone with co-dependency issues or feelings of insecurity.
Sometimes this display of value will lower a barrier and can be a part of the ‘Seduction’ strategy of approaching barriers, but you should really be ready to follow through on it. If someone thinks you’re faking, and you don’t ride the strategy all the way out, welcome to beta orbiter zone. Be ready to pay that toll.
“But in a perfect world, I should have easy, instant access!”
Really, this is probably the most beta response one can have. Though maybe I’m just biased against it. I really, really hate whining.
The person obviously sees the barrier. They see that goods are being kept from them. Hell, they probably see both the fake toll and the option to smash the barrier. They simply have devoted so much time, energy, and beliefs into the idea that the world should be a place of rainbows, butterflies, and unicorns. A world where they get everything for nothing. A world devoid of self interest and selfish desires.
As such, they glare at the barrier, at anyone beyond the barrier, and at anyone trying to tell them to move on.
It happens every day in theatre, and I suspect in every career where advancement is based on ambition and motivation. They whine that someone infront of them just walked into a job position and was able to get it because of their narcissism, ego, and charisma. The world isn’t fair to them because they’ve paid their dues quietly, humbly, and expect their reward. They don’t understand that ego and ambition are part of the game as well, that being able to sell yourself and your skills speaks well of your confidence in those skills.
Again, this is relevant to everything – sex, career, family, friends. No one likes entitlement bitches or emasculated manginas in any area of their lives unless they’re planning on using said person like a pawn on a chess board. And I’d stay away from people that want to use you like that too.
So just don’t do it.
” ‘Why hello there,’ said the spider to the fly.”
Seduction.
Pure display of value through the ability to reframe the situation. Flip the script. You’re the goal and you’re able to turn the barrier place by another person into one they need to use one of the above strategies in order to get to you. And you make them want to.
This can be done by having a well deserved and healthy self esteem and knowledge of your own worth. Again, it applies to any area of life. You’ve built your career to a point where your skills and reputation are desirable to employers in your field to the point where the power that usually resides in the company’s ability to hire someone else becomes your power to grace to company with your skills. Your friends and family know how busy you are; and see that you chose to spend time with them without rubbing it in their faces – they know that you’d be there for them unless under dire needs and reward you with their own time, respect, and happiness. The women fall into bed without hesitation, with you swinging your cock like a playful carrot in front of their faces.
It can also be done by a narcissistic and charismatic douchebag. Someone that ignores the rules, is able to influence your decisions by showing outward signs of honor, dependability, reforming moral standards, etc. They twist the rules that society says you should follow to pay to get by a barrier, and then change the price. The entitlement princesses can do it just as easily as the stereotypical ‘bad boy’ douchebag with narcissistic issues by playing off ideas of honor and duty – though those situations likely belong more in the “We require….. a shrubbery!” section. Still, I’ll include it here just as a warning because women are amazingly skilled at their ability to deflect and reframe a situation so that what you thought was a barrier you attempted to place turns into one they own, a battle field trench, or the grave of your own emotional needs.
“But what does it all MEAN!?”
Just that you should look for patterns and be aware of your life.
As with what I discussed in Finding Your Wounds, and Yohami discusses on his website in the last few posts, these things speak of your pains, your issues, and areas where you are lacking or have confidence. Someone can handle social or professional barriers with ease, but blunder around like a blind man when it comes to women. Or the other way around.
Find areas of your life where you’re lacking. Fix them.
Grow
