Dumb it Down with Ladies

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This is less philosophy and more on avoiding philosophy with women. However,this is related to some of the philosophy and literature posts I’ve done in the past. Plus, I made this mistake on Friday night, so the timing and relevance of an answer that Roosh gave hit close to home. I messed up, so I’m taking the chance to further internalize the lesson while I write about it.

 

From his email

A reader asked a very basic question; which I’ll paraphrase in one sentence:

Why do women whom claim to be intellectuals, with whom you actually have deep conversations in which you feel like you connect, tend to be harder to capture than the elusive Moby Dick?

The response a devoted intellectual courtship can expect from the modern woman

To which Roosh responds as follows:

I know exactly what you are describing. It happened to me recently with a girl from South Africa. We went out, had a great time talking about all sorts of things without any pauses, but after several hours she pulls the goodbye and doesn’t even give me the opportunity to kiss her.
Like you I spent time going over this, and since I’ve had a few cases like this before I think I know what’s happening…
There’s no tension.
Without tension there is no attraction. There has to be something raw or edgy about the interaction where not everything is perfect, where some type of emotional button is pushed. Otherwise you’re just brother and sister.
I purposefully DUMB DOWN conversations with smart chicks to achieve this tension. I tease them instead of talking about world politics or whatever it is we have in common. Then after we have sex a couple times I can talk about the things I wouldn’t dare touch before, like the literature I’m reading.
Lack of tension is why smart, intellectual guys don’t have many sexual partners. Tap into a strong jerk/primal vibe instead, only tossing a bit of it aside once you’re getting the sex.

In other words, without tension, the average woman will find the average male is about as unappealing as this:

I don’t know how the whale made it that far from the beach….

He doesn’t really get into the why this is important part of the answer, so I will

 

No One Cares About Your Mental Capabilities

So get over yourself.

And by no one I really mean no one. Not people at your job, not your family, not your dog. Close friends that you develop a relationship conversing over whiskey and a cigar are the exception, but must be cultivated and certainly are not the rule. And they will nearly always be men, and not women. There was a reason men retired to whiskey and cigars together, and there’s a reason why this has died off with the change of cultural values.

You develop yourself for yourself, not to show off to others. So stop trying

I’ve written about this more in depth in the past, so for the curious as to why no one cares and instead, will actively begin to resent you, check out the link below to a previous post of mine. Accept the reality and keep developing your logical abilities regardless of the haters.

But women who actively say that they want a man who’s mind they can respect throw off the best of men’s hard learned lessons every now and then. Lets delve a bit into why women will say one thing, and follow through on the actions of this particular topic with completely opposite reactions.

 

The Confusion Women Give Men

There are three basic reasons women will suddenly become much harder to get in the sack once you start to show that you’re better than the average bear in terms of anything related to your brain.

 

1. Intellect is linked with “Marriage Material” values. By showing off too much intellect, you raise your value in her eyes in such a manner that she believes she has to pass a morality based vetting process with you. She will suddenly add several hours of time, if not several actual dates, to her mental evaluation of how long she has to keep you out of her pants so as not to give off a slut vibe.

This is the same sort of reaction a woman will give any man of whom shows traditional Christian values. This is entirely independent of whether you happen to be a Christian or not. Or a Charismatic, masculine leader or not. If you show marriage values to her, you raise the stakes for her.

If you’re pursuing a woman of possible wife material, she’ll hide any sluttiness more. I’d avoid it simply so that you can accurately sound out their true nature.

If you’re pursing a hedonistic ends, you just gave off the wrong sales pitch on what she should value you for. An intellectual mind does not a hedonistic cruise down lovers lane make. Switching gears is about as awkward as that sentence structure is.

Avoid it.

 

2. No control over emotional connections and no emotional foundation to safely lead her back to. By staying within an intellectual realm, you are literally asking a woman to freely make intellectual leaps without any control over where she might land. Women are creatures that want to romp through a world of emotions, with you as the leader to assure her safety. A woman will forgive and love many a man for sticking up for his beliefs, but only if she’s already attracted to him. Which requires that emotional foundation. If you lack an emotional foundation to where you can safely lead her, you’re poking a dragon with a stick in hopes that it will give up it’s treasure, rather than simply eating you whole. Sometimes you will get lucky, often you won’t. You’ll rather build a blend of emotions without leadership to which she’ll connect you when thinking back upon the experience.

A man well versed in game can lightly use a subject to tease her, but getting into any depth will entrench you. Entrenchment in the anathema to emotional romping.

Avoid it.

 

3. Your intellect is a resource. Women realize this. When she says that she values intellect, and you start giving away something of value for free, you’re giving away your commitment without obtaining anything in return from her perspective. What’s more, is that since every man on the planet values their intellect, you’re now also qualifying for her rather than her qualifying for you.

Guard your gates. Guard your commitment.

The closest you can get to winning with this part is by making her qualify for you instead of the other way around. Yet, if you get an intellectual belief of hers you disagree with, without that proper amount of crazy-as-sin-oh-my-god-he’s-a-real-man attraction, you are forced to either cede the point you don’t agree with or get eaten by the angry dragon when it doesn’t pass a qualification it deems far more important than the current level of attraction to you.

Avoid it or engage at your own risk.

 

Sexual attraction, and not intellectual, is the basis of any relationship. Make her want your dick first, then make her want your brain, heart, and soul.

 

Related Links

Roosh’s Newsletter

Uneducated Hatred and Let Us Not Become Misologic

Hold The Line: Guard Your Gate

Swing That Dick and Name My Son Dick

Fat Acceptance

Originally posted June 27, 2012 at 11:00 AM as a gift to you from Professor Mentu

 

The term “fat acceptance” is making a comeback, as Americans continue to weigh in (heh) on the obesity epidemic. Here’s a little something I pulled from the NAAFA website:

“Founded in 1969, the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance (NAAFA) is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to ending size discrimination in all of its forms. NAAFA’s goal is to help build a society in which people of every size are accepted with dignity and equality in all aspects of life. NAAFA will pursue this goal through advocacy, public education, and support.”

Dignity? You’ve got to be kidding me.

Let’s take a moment and look at the ills overweight (25 to 29.9 BMI) and obese (BMI >30) Americans levy on society, and you can decide for yourself if you think they’re dignified in their contributions or provide positive social inertia in a way equal to Americans who sustain a healthy lifestyle.

1. The incremental rise healthcare costs of obese persons is triple the amount of that of smokers.

2. Obese Americans cost their employers $153 billion annually in lost productivity.

3. 1 billion gallons of additional fuel is consumed each year due to excess weight of the American population. The increased airline fuel use alone puts an additional 3.8 million tons of carbon dioxide in the air. [Jacobson SH, King DM. Measuring the potential for automobile fuel savings in the US: the impact of obesity. Transportation Research 2009:14:6-13.]

4. Retooling costs for manufacturers of everything from children’s clothing to toilet seats is becoming a major expense that is being passed to the consumer. NYC transit authorities, sports staduim owners, and a host of other business are scrambling to keep up with America’s fatter asses.

5. The cost of obesity to the Department of Defense was over $1.1 billion in 2007 for active duty members alone, and double that amount for all TRICARE beneficiaries. The effects of obesity in the DoD are getting worse by the minute.

I could go on and on, but you get the idea. How can fat people demand their dignity when their gelatinous ass costs their employers so much more in lost productivity, increases airline ticket prices, pollutes the environment, spurs inflation across nearly all product manufacturing sectors, and dwindles defense reserves?

Fat acceptance makes about as much sense as gingivitis acceptance. Both are completely preventable, easily reversed, and are the sign of a slovenly lifestyle.

Sorry, fatfucks; you can’t have your dignity and eat it too.

See how easy that is? Now shut up about fat acceptance, put down the fork, back away from the buffet, and take a goddamn walk around the block every now and then. If you’re too lazy to do this, you should at least apologize to the world for being a social parasite.

Fat acceptance for fat chicks in the mating market kicks it up another level, and Ashur has a freaking hilarious posts which address this in greater detail. He’s working on it now, and we’ll drop it after the 4th of July Holiday.

Hundred Words of Hate: Vol. 4

Originally Posted June 27, 2012 at 5:00 AM as a gift to you from Professor Mentu

 

If you buy lottery tickets at a gas station c-store during afternoon rush hour, I fucking hate you.  The lottery is America’s tax on people who are can’t do math, and I support that, but for fuck sake let the rest of us pay for our gas before you stand there bringing the entire city to a halt. We’re trying to have a society here, so hang on, watch an extra hour of Jerry Springer or something (it might be the episode with your sister in it!) and give the rest of us time to get gas and go home.

Use Body Language to Bring Your True Self

A back to basics for the best of us

 

 

I know this is one that people harp on all the time, but that’s because this is the easiest to implement, easiest to forget, fastest game changer that will take months (if not years) to internalize.

If Badger was still blogging regularly, this is exactly the kind of thing that he’d be posting. An easy fix that adds up quickly.

This woman admits that it is testosterone and cortisol that leads to people doing better in school when graded by merit, by accomplishments, and by willingness for participation.

Gee, that sounds awfully like actual work environments, like picking up women, and like taking other risks. Sounds like it’s what being a man is all about.

 

Key Notes

We contrast one another – If someone is showing dominant body language, the other person will likely show submissive. Conversely, if someone shows submissive body language, the other will adopt dominant body language

Powerful people think more abstractly

Powerful people believe they’ll win, even at games of chance

Cortisol is overlooked in most of the manosphere; at least I don’t think I’ve ever read about it. High cortisol levels will have people react poorly to stress, with more energy and anxiety. I’ll need to look into what you can do besides body language to impact cortisol levels.

 

Body Posture

There are other factors the woman cites that most people here already know about such as facial structure determining elections. We don’t have control over that in our lives. But we do have control over our body posture, and it’s a short, easy fix to get noticeable results.

Two minutes people.

Two minutes of holding a powerful body posture is enough to markedly increase your hormonal levels in your saliva of all things. Two minutes is enough to change the likelihood of whether or not someone would gamble. Two minutes is enough for an employer to decide whether you get a job or whether you’re back out on the street, and they didn’t give a damn about the words coming out of your mouth.

 

Years of Practice

The other part I liked about the video was her personal story. That it took her years of being pushed to fake it until she became what she was faking. In the end, we all become the masks we show the world. Instant affects on our bodies, years to change our minds and self image. Years to get from where we are to where we want to be.

From the TED talk:

You’re not going to finish college. There are other things you can do, but that’s not going to work out for you

 

Compared to what we’ve all heard:

I just don’t think of you like that. Lets just be friends.

Or, for those divorce folks

I Love you, but I’m not in love with you

My favorite quote was that body posture doesn’t make you ‘fake’ something or allow you to be someone else, but allows you to bring your true self to the table. By assuming a confident posture, you allow people to truly see who you are as a man rather than pass their attention span over some invisible crouching thing in the corner. If you haven’t internalized it yet, you might not think it’s your true self, but they will. And they’ll be right; what they see will be markedly closer to your true self if you adopt good body language and posture than if you don’t.

 

Don’t do this:

A tribute to men without balls

A tribute to men without balls

 

Be This

Don Draper style

Don Draper style

 

 

Head up

Chin out

Arms taking up space

And maintain eye contact. Don’t be the pussy looking down at the ground.

 

Show them what it’s like to look like a man by showing yourself what it’s like to be one.

Runner, Runner – A new poker movie that might find it’s balls

After expressing the bad aftertaste Iron Man 3 left in my mouth, I had someone send me an email that a  movie I should be on the look out for in September. Leonardo Di Caprio´s upcoming poker movie. DiCaprio’s the producer, with Ben Affleck and Justin Timberlake as the two leading men and Gemma Arterton as the leading lady eye candy.

The plot looks interesting. Timberlakes character gets screwed over in a game of online poker and, since online poker is illegal in the U.S, is forced into either sucking it up (thus not being able to pay school tuition) or going to actually do something about it. He chooses the latter and gets caught up in some interesting third world power struggles.

From the trailer it looks to be a grown up, less whiny version of 21, the black jack card counting poker film a few years ago. Men being men, taking chances, getting their asses kicked, and maybe coming out ahead. Much better than the young spoiled brat gang of 21. Which surprised me; before seeing the trailer I would have guessed it as DiCaprio, an actor I’d describe as just having recently found his masculinity and his balls, leading Affleck and Timberlake in search of theirs. Lord knows I haven’t enjoyed an Affleck movie since Dogma year ago, and Daredevil was so atrocious I haven’t seen anything of his since. Timberlake isn’t exactly a man’s man either. Yet the movie doesn’t look to back away from anything. My expectations being blown away are probably the result of an unknown director getting his first (and maybe only) shot to make his name. So he looks to be taking some risks, good on him. Loved this quote from the trailer

This is your job. You want a clear conscious, go start a charity. But if you want your own island, and your boss says you gotta go out there and take a beating, go out there. Take it. Come back to work. And say, ‘Do you need me to do it again?’!

Pussies need not apply.

Which is exactly what I want in a movie.

The Fatal Weakness in Grievance-Group Politics

Originaly posted June 28, 2012 at 5:00 AM as a gift to you from Professor Ashur

 

Some discussion ensued after my recent post regarding my belief that feminism will eventually give way to the massive inertia of human history. When a trend has run wild for several decades, it’s tempting to simply extrapolate the trend into the future and not account for human nature’s powerful tendency to revert to historical norms.

Misandry, which is generally interlocked with feminism, has been correctly described as a bubble. We are now just entering the asymptotic part of the curve. It will get worse. But that is necessary.

I am not going to debate the merit or original intent of the feminist movement, other than to say that at its inception, many of those early demands appeared reasonable to many. This gave feminism its initial traction. The problem with political movements is that once the machinery of change is in place, some individuals and organizations see potential for political and/or financial gain. For some, it is simply an opportunity to work out all their personal rage against imagined wrongs, which provides incentive to prolong the grievance process.

This is another example of the means/ends problem. The fact that many women are constitutionally predisposed to drama and recreational conflict gives feminist agitators a ready army of superbly qualified malcontents. Think of the Prussians, except armed with flaming brassieres.

Feminism as a political movement used the law and the re-engineering of our culture to consolidate and secure all of those early demands long ago, so in order to continue the process of profit and vendetta, it became necessary to search out new grievances. The next tranche of grievances were no doubt less reasonable than the first, but with their opponents sufficiently cowed by feminist shaming language, it was no problem to implement those demands either.

Flush with success, and with an increasingly timid opposition, hubris and idiocy were bound to make their standard appearance. With the path now clear in front of them, feminists went from victory to victory, until they have now become – in their minds – akin to some sort of societal clergy, unshakeable in their self-righteouseness.

Machiavellian by nature, feminists interpreted men’s chivalrous lack of resistance as a tacit admission of guilt. This continued accommodation by men had the perverse effect of convincing these women that even the most specious of their grievances were founded in reality, and amplified their sense of outrage at their supposed mistreatment. Essentially, feminism has turned a lot of women into the equivalent of the most damaged, butthurt beta males you have ever seen.  Like betas, feminists are fragile beyond belief, and will slap and snap at everyone and everything like a female version of a mama’s boy. Given this loss of control over their emotions, political overreach is inevitable.

It is important to reiterate a point I made earlier: Whatever the original intent, feminism is now a machine dedicated to the discovery and rectification of perceived wrongs. The supply of plausibly reasonable wrongs has been fully exhausted, and each new grievance becomes an obvious overreach.

Ever see a riverbank wash away in a flood? The deterioration of the soil happens for quite a while, almost unobserved, until finally the riverbank collapses in an instant. Like this current, the relentless efforts of feminism have been slowly eroding the intellectual and moral assent of many. With each new unreasonable demand and accusation, sympathy for their cause erodes. For now, the riverbank seems as solid as ever, even as the current becomes more intense. This increase of intensity is what the commenters in the previous post are noticing.

So why don’t the feminists tone it down a bit and enjoy the gains they have achieved? Why do they keep eating away even at their allies? Simple – feminism has become a social machine over which none of them exercise any control. They have incited a mob, and they must now deal with the mob mentality they have created. As everyone knows, mobs take on a mind of their own, usually resisting the best arguments of even their most revered inciters.

Recent articles by first-wave feminists have admitted as much. A number of them have lamented the direction feminism has taken, and they point out the now-obvious destruction that is being done. Will the current crop of feminists pause and listen to the doyennes of their movement, or take the advice of their elder gender warriors to heart? Of course not. These sobered-up first wave feminists are routinely shouted down as sellouts and traitors by the very machine they crafted with their own little man-hands.

It is also important to remember that societal change requires an investment of social capital. People do not accommodate you based on a simple request; they require that you have some sort of social capital to exchange for social favor. The West has spent the last several decades flagellating itself in deference to various victim groups, with victim status being the current societal Gold Card: It’s accepted everywhere. Feminists have spared no expense in the pursuit of their goals, having made enormous withdrawals from the social account of Western women – an account previously funded by the gracious and ladylike deposits made by their grandmothers.

Men (and some women) are finally awakening to the fact that their best efforts to please and accommodate have actually been on the losing side of several decades of the prisoner’s dilemma dynamic. Resistance has materialized, and that resistance has begun even as feminist demands are becoming more unreasonable by the day. Therefore, greater amounts of social capital will be required by the feminist movement, even as men start requiring a higher price for their accommodation. For many years, men were actually contributing social capital to the feminist cause, but as we move from collaborator to opponent, our refusal to make social deposits will have notable effects.

Feminists will not take these new headwinds graciously. This is why I fully expect the implosion of feminism to be preceded by a blitzkrieg of initiatives on their part. Like any other bubble, rapid but tumultuous advances are more indicative of a turning point than a new plateau. Expect their demands to go beyond unreasonable to downright insane. Expect them to raise the emotional temperature of the discussion to an elevated pitch. Every new demand will be framed as though it is equivalent to freeing people from the WWII concentration camps.

I’d buy stock in Godwin’s Law, if it was possible.

The final surge of feminism will be underwritten by whatever remaining social capital Western women possess. This may still be a considerable amount, and feminists will be willing to spend it all if necessary. Yes, there are plenty of white knights and manginas who are willing to throw their social capital behind the feminist cause, but a feminist society is more like a machine than a natural organism. The machine requires a continuous supply of fuel and maintenance for continued operation, and eventually, Western civilization will tire of it.

Left unexplored here is the fractures that have developed in feminism as more women discovered that feminism came at a high cost. Many are unwilling to see their remaining social capital wasted in service of the petty vendettas of feminist leaders. Feminism, as we experience it now, is not the natural state of women, no matter how much they may appear to be enjoying the spoils of war.

Women are not our enemy. Women are our natural worthy opponents in the human sexual game. Our unnatural enemy is feminists and their mangina enablers.

This is why it is so critical to turn the white knights back into men. With each one turned, feminists lose a collaborator and gain an opponent. This is why shaming white knights is the correct method; it was through shame that they were coerced into the unnatural state of being fem-servants, and it was shame that kept them there. The polite deference other men have shown in this regard must stop. We must make these men choose between feminist shaming and masculine shaming. They have shown us what button to push, we just need to push it. When forced to choose between disapproval by feminists and disapproval by men, many will choose to abandon feminism. This has an incremental effect, just like the eroding riverbank, but the results will eventually show up more dramatically further down the road.

All change happens at the margin, and much of it is invisible until it manifests itself in sudden ways.

Wait for it…